Happy Birthday Dad.. Why I hadn’t said anything..

On his birthday I had posted a picture of the small little cake that we’d got him (he would have obviously frowned on anything bigger..). He’d made his internet debut with that on his 76th birthday.

Happy Birthday Dad..

I happened to show it to him the other day..

In what is the characteristic super eloquence that Father’s normally reserve for their sons, looking up from his reading with just the faintest of nod’s he managed a “oh good”, looked at it for a few seconds and then went back to his reading.

In turn with the characteristic eloquence and show of “cool” that normally son’s reserve for their father’s, I managed a “yup” with a shrug of my shoulders.

I quite suspect he had wanted to say a lot more than that..

I definitely had a lot more to say than what I had managed..

I wanted to tell him that cake actually stood for all the goodness that he had blessed us with all throughout, the abundance he had striven to provide for us all his life.

The beauty and sweetness he had filled our lives with.. the many birthday’s he made sure we celebrated with everything we wished for..

Those candles standing for how he’d led his life, himself burning, sacrificing, making sure darkness never touched our lives.

That was my way of saying thank you to him, telling him I was proud…

But am I actually going to say all this to him.. have him read this post even?

Naaah.. because then he’d be embarrassed, and then Id be embarrassed, and everything would be a little awkward and then we wouldn’t know what to do..

I guess some thing’s are best left unsaid..

They are best, just felt!

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21-12-12.. let it be a new beginning!

The world will come to an end on 21-12-12.. That’s what the text message I received recently said..
Will it really?
There’s a host of websites dedicated to the topic, thankfully a lot of them contain sensible arguments which call it what it is…a hoax!
But what if it really is true, what if the word is really going to end that day, what If we really did have only a few days to live.. What would we do!
While an apocalypse may not be a reality that thankfully most of us may have to deal with, there are quite a few for whom an apocalypse has been predicted with certainty. Who live every day knowing for sure they are not going to live long, who know, whose loved ones know that they have very few months, or even just days to live!
The terminally ill live with that knowledge every day; their loved ones know for sure the end is near, how do they deal with it.
This reminds of me a beautiful bollywood classic – Anand (Which is the Hindi word for Happiness).
It is about a terminally ill person – Anand, who has been given just a few months to live, who has been told that he has form of cancer that has no cure and that the end Is very near..
Perfect recipe for an absolute tear jerker right? Well quite the opposite really..
Knowing that the end is near….Anand decides to live life to the fullest! He goes about spreading joy and happiness, reaching out to as many people as his short life would allow, touching their lives.
In loving his life he teaches several other people how to love their own, with what little color he has left he paints the lives of all those around with vibrant beautiful shades.
Like a beautiful flower that doesn’t really know or care if the end is near.. he steps out every day with his best suit and best smile…
He lives every day like its going to be his last. He lives his life like a kid whose been told the parks about to close and he better hurry up!.. That kid doesn’t waste time! That kid gives it all he has to make the most of the time he has left!
And really why cant we do all do that.. why not make the most of it while it lasts.
Live like the world is going to end .. not on 21-12-12, Live like its going to end tomorrow!..
Live like there’s absolutely no time left, you have to make the most of it.. Have all the fun while you can!
Go do that crazy thing you have been waiting to do all this while!
Go make that phone call you have been putting off!
Go give that hug!
Go down on your knee and just say it!
Go give that smile you know in your heart was needed!
Make that apology!
Go make your peace!
Live every day like it’s going to be your last!
Live like the world is going to end tomorrow!

Stop Worrying, Start Living!

Let 21-12-12 not be an end.. let it be a new beginning!


My son.. the beach bum!

Dad, I want to go to the beach!!

This is what he said when he called me at work the other day, and I couldn’t help smiling..

Nothing else does it for him; it has to be the beach!

I clearly remember the first time we took him to a beach, he’s been a different person ever since…

Every holiday ever since has had to have a trip to the beach, and there’s just no way I can say no to…..




Here’s how our typical “sessions” at the beach begin.. we are almost always the first ones to hit the beach, hurrying like the blazes.. Like the sea might run out of water any minute now..

And we are always the last ones to head back.. always a difficult conversation..

He is always at his creative best..

He loves building castles on the sand … and in the air.. he one day wants a house close to the beach!!

The sea also brings out his adventurous best..

The closest beach is a good 3-4 hour drive..

but the pure joy on his face always makes it worthwhile!!

So there it is.. he has decided, another trip to the beach is imminent..

And to be fair to him..I am just as big a beach bum as he is.. At the time of going to press, both of us are working on strategies to convince his mother 🙂

If you too are a beach bum (hopefully its apparent by now.. I use the term with utmost affection), please do leave behind information about your favorite beach (and here’s a hint: these don’t have to be on some top 20 list beaches..The best beaches somehow always seem to be those hidden gems, tucked faraway from the maddening crowds.. where its just you, the sun the sand and the waves)

I am hoping my son reads this blog one day and finds this list of beaches you would have so kindly left behind..

I am hoping he might visit all these beaches..

And then I hope he starts a blog of his own..

sharing his thoughts on why being a beach bum.. might actually be a good thing!